Who gets excited about divorce-related articles during the holidays? Well, I do, of course! Am I some sort of Grinch??? No, I am a family law attorney. Before you chuckle, as opposed to popular belief, “Grinch” is not a synonym for “attorney”.
The truth of the matter is that I am constantly searching for ways to assist my clients that are going through the divorce process, so I was excited to read this Huffington Post Article, “Holiday Divorce Advice: 10 Tips for Weathering the Holidays Post Split.” The divorce process is never easy and emotions run high. As a family law attorney, I have witnessed these emotions amplify during the holidays.
I also enjoy reading such articles because I like to see if I agree or disagree with the pointers provided by the author. There were a couple of tips that are thought were important to highlight:
- Prepare Yourself for the Emotional Response.
As a family law attorney, I found this pointer to be particularly important. I have found many clients begin to make irrational decisions solely based on emotion during the holiday season. Whether it be arguing over whether Elf on the Shelf should be make an appearance at both households during a shared parenting time arrangement or arguing over a $25 credit card charge, oftentimes people let their emotions get the best of them during the holidays and arguments become more aggravated than ever before.
- Plan in Advance.
If I had made my own list, this would have been numero uno! If you wait until December 23rd to call your lawyer to see if you can get into court that day to get an order for Christmas parenting time or an order to get you access to funds from an inaccessible bank account so you can do your shopping, well, let's just say that you have a better chance of that Elf on the Shelf coming to life. J
While there were many good tips in this article, I will leave you with the wise words of wisdom my mother always told me and I will make it my #3.
- This too shall pass.
Feelings of sadness or loss that are felt during the holiday season are inevitable, but will pass. If this holiday season happens to fall during your year of uncertainty and change, have comfort that a new year is right around the corner!
Check out the Huffington Post Article here: